Never collect red flags in a marriage, in a Relationship, in a friendship. Once you start seeing them you'll start asking, "why?". Why wasn't I good enough? Why now? Why me? Then you stay in whatever "ship" you're in and you still ask, "why?". Why am I good enough now but I wasn't then? Why did I change? Did he/she change? Why didn't I notice? Then everything turns to a red flag, and all you see is red. When you deserved green the whole time. You deserved yellow, blue, purple, but you do not deserve red flags in any relationship. You deserve to be with someone who doesn't make you see red every place you look but makes you see the light in even the darkest places. You deserve appreciation and security. Love is a beautiful thing and it should not be taken for granted, it should not be abused and it should not be something to hold over one's head. Love should be easy. Love should be amazing.